The passage of your stepson to manhood should be covered while talking of raising them. This is because the aim of raising stepsons is to mold them into being responsible men with virtues. Bringing up and initiating young men into adulthood has been done by men in cultures around the world. Village elders would teach the young men how to perform the roles and responsibilities of a man properly. It was a lifelong struggle for young men who have become men to preserve their manhood.
In recent times men do not have the task of leading young men into manhood ,instead they are allowed to have their perception of manhood from their experiences. Boys are then expected to figure out what being a grown up means, and that is why many of them do not have a clear guidance on what they are expected to do as grown-ups. A new stepfather blending with the family finds it challenging to know his position in the family and to determine how well to bond with sons or son not belonging them.
A lot of energy, time and understanding will be required from you as a stepfather to know the feelings of your stepson towards himself and the blended family before creating a new relationship with him. Below are the tips that will assist you to form a strong bond with your stepson that will enable you to raise him to a grown man. You will have to partner with the parents of your stepson to let them know the role you play in their son’s life and gain their support.
The mother to your stepson should also be involved without question because she has raised the boy and therefore knows him very well. You will have to talk to the mother of your stepson to know the issues she had while bringing up the boy in an effort to forming a bond with him. Any issues that come up with your stepson will need his mother to make the final decision on handling him. Establishing a great relationship with your stepson’s father can also help improve the relationship between you and your stepson. Raising your stepson to manhood will be significantly aided if you make an effort of contacting his biological father and learning the ideas he had of bringing up his boy and reassuring him that you are not replacing him in his son’s life.
Creating a vision in conjunction with your stepson’s mother for your stepson will enable him achieve his full potential as he grows. With a vision in place, your stepson will have a clear guidance on the kind of man he is supposed to grow into and will develop intellectually, physically, emotionally and spiritually.